As a Leader, if you’re consistently feeling unhappy, there are usually 2 things at play, and in some cases, not in play at all.

1- You’re not observing yourself and your life with precision.

Most people don’t.

Why?

It’s human nature.

There is a scary “unknown” on the other side of being honest with ourselves.

In order to NOT fail most people would rather avoid defining what failure looks like.

The problem with avoiding this means you haven’t defined what SUCCESS or progress looks like for you either.

So you stay in a perpetual state of “not winning”.

This isn’t better, because since you’re not moving forward, you’re still failing…

…you just haven’t labeled it with clarity yet.

2- You’ve drifted from your standard (aka values)

Even though you’re losing and unhappy, you’re still not doing #1.

That means you’ve kept things vague enough in your life to avoid “failure”.

So you have no aim…

And without aim, you have no direction to navigate the world…

What to say “yes” to.

Or “no” to.

You’re lacking the internal leadership that decides:

“This is what I stand for and this is what I’m willing to tolerate”.

So how can you lead yourself?

If you can’t lead you, then how can you lead your family?

Your team?

Your market?

Anytime I hit a “rut” in my life…

(I’ve noticed this in the people around me as well)

…The rut ceases when we return back to our standards.

This looks like asking yourself:

• “What is my aim?”

• “Are my daily behaviors and choices in alignment with my aim?”

If there’s a gap ,  acknowledge and make corrections.

That’s what progress looks like.

If you’re lacking the internal drive to make those corrections then you must ask yourself “WHY?”. 

Why do you what you do? Is it a worthy cause? 

Is worth the sacrifice of time, attention, energy? 

If not, then you need to address that. 

I’ll dive more into this in a future newsletter. 

In the meantime, start with addressing what you’re aiming for and what your standards are. 

As always, thank you for reading and being a part of my journey. I don’t take it lightly. 

I’ll see you next week.